Monday, July 26, 2010

Last words

A friend's husband passed away on Saturday morning. He wasn't feeling well the night before, and after a trip to the clinic, he came home to sleep, as he normally did. He never woke up.

There are no words to comfort Norita. She didn't have the opportunity to say goodbye. To say sorry, to say thank you, to say words of love and affirmation to the person who was closest and most important in her life. It was too sudden. There were no signs. His last words to her were not significant.

Norita is now left with 4 young children to care for. The eldest boy is only 12 and the youngest is merely 3. It's hard enough being a mother, but to have to shoulder the responsibility of bringing the children up all alone seems most unbearable. It's so traumatic and I couldn't stop crying. I pray that Allah will give her the strength and will to carry on..

Being with her on Saturday made me think of how precious life is and how we take many things that we have for granted. How we take the people that we love for granted. I cannot imagine not having AZ or any of my kids in my life. I don't think I will have the strength to go on and face life without any of them. It makes me think of my own mortality. I so fear that my last words to them will not be ones of love and encouragement. I want them to always remember me as someone who love them utterly and unconditionally. That I am their biggest fan and most ardent supporter.

I pray to Allah that when my time comes, I will be given the opportunity to say sorry, thank you and goodbye. To say to AZ that he is the most important person in my life and how I love him so fiercely; to tell my kids how absolutely precious they are and how proud I am of each of them; to tell my family how special they are in my life and how much they each mean to me.

Death is certain. Every day is a gift from God. Use it wisely and spend it with the people that you love, doing the things that you love. Never go to bed angry. Make amends with your loved ones. Say sorry even if you know it's not your fault. Tell them you love them, every day. You never know if those words are the last ones you will ever hear or say.

8 comments:

dott + swack said...

it is sad.....

Adillah A Nordin said...

It's really sad, Da.. Cannot imagine if it happens to us.. Takutnya..

aNoiHalim said...

On the one side, senang sungguh arwah pergi menghadap penciptaNYA..tak menanggung sakit yang lama..

tapi bila tak berpeluang untuk mengucapkan kata-kata terakhir kepada arwa, memang akan terasa sangat kessedihannya... :(

Adillah A Nordin said...

Ya la Hasanah. Sangat mudah pergi semasa tidur.. Yang ditinggalkan yang merasa ralat..

anaifa said...

So sad Puan.. This post made me cry. U see, when my abah passed away it's hard for me to accept it until my auntie told me that at least I had the chance to take care of him & berpeluang dengar kata2 terakhir dari dia unlike one of her friend whom her husband passed away in an accident; no last words!!

Puan, kita sama2 doa insan yg kita sayang akan sentiasa berada di sisi kita dalam keadaan yg baik hendaknya..

Adillah A Nordin said...

Dear Efy, tu lah.. takut sangat kalau tak berkesempatan for Last Words.. Let's pray that Allah will always protect our loved ones..

kaseh said...

Kak Dilla,

Entry ni mengetuk hati saya...we can never imagine bila memikirkan bahawa janji Allah ke atas setiap satu kematian.Namun sebagai hambaNya apabila semua ini berlaku terhadap kita, bila kehilangan orang yang paling kita saya dalam hidup kita, Allah mengajar kita melihat dunia ini dengan padangan mata hati yang lebih tajam dan sungguh berbeza...kita akan lebih menghargai, lebih menyayangi dan yang pasti kita akan jadi lebih dekat kepadaNya pada setiap saat kerana tiada siapa pun yang dapat menenangkan hati dan jiwa kita melainkan Allah Yang Esa. Itulah yang i lalui ketika kehilangan arwah Naili Umairah kak.

Like u said, setiap hari yang Allah berikan pada kita ialah satu hadiah, lalu hendaklah kita hargainya sebaik mungkin.

Adillah A Nordin said...

Linda, Takut bila nak fikirkan kehilangan seseorang yang sangat kita sayang walaupun kita pasti dia akan pergi jua.. MasyaAllah..