Friday, January 29, 2010

Emotional

Why are we women so emotional? Don't you just wish that you don't care so much sometimes because somehow little things mean a lot and before you know it we start feeling hurt. We cry, sulk and wait for those 2 little magic words: "I'm sorry". The problem (and the sulking) is somehow enhanced when those words are not forthcoming from our men. The thing is most of the time men are just clueless about what they did (or didn't do) to hurt their other (better) half. And sometimes I don't blame them! We women somehow feel that there is no need for explanation as we always think: "If he loves me, he will know what went wrong!" Hallloooo??? Not only do we expect our men to be loving, romantic and attentive, we also expect them to be mind-readers!! Tsk, tsk, tsk...


Well, I used to be guilty of all that too. Don't blame me, I'm a woman! So, I'm entitled to be unreasonable when it comes to matters of the heart. But you know, I've somehow changed my perception of things (mainly because I just turned 40 and it gets rather tiring to wait for my man to somehow guess when something went wrong). So, I feel it's best to just be upfront, tell him and make him understand why it hurts. And it's working so much better! Why didn't I think of this earlier and save myself all those pain & hurt? Now we understand each other even better (read: he now knows that I get stressed over little things!). Aiyoh! A little bit embarassing sometimes, but at least he knows that he should say sorry and I will feel a lot better :)


Ladies, for the sake of sanity and self-preservation, when something goes wrong (as it often does in a relationship between 2 people who are far from perfect) please just tell your man what went wrong. And when he asks: "What's wrong, dear?", don't you dare say "Nothing's wrong..." although you just cried your eyeballs out in the bathroom!


Good luck, gals (^_^)

10 comments:

ms hart said...

Dil, me and my fellow 40-something-office people always tell those in their 30s, hello, tak mainlah gaduh over petty things...to us the 40-something-couples, that's really old fashion!!;-) Buang masa!! (psst...actually2 nya masa muda2 dah penat buat 'drama', tapi tak 'laku'!! huhuhu...!!)

calot said...

nice posting!!! true..penat merajuk sorang2 last2 kita kena pujuk sendiri:(..

Adillah A Nordin said...

Tati, memang rasa dah tua dah ni! No more merajuk-merajuk over little things huh :)

Adillah A Nordin said...

Harnida, please don't merajuk sorang-sorang.. Been through all that and it hurts so much sometimes! And true as u said. last-last kena pujuk diri sendiri.. :(

Mrs.A said...

Thanks for this Kak Dilla. :)

Adillah A Nordin said...

my pleasure Amy..

caramel said...

Dilla;

don't ask don't get and don't tell they wont't know........susahkan.........

Adillah A Nordin said...

Raha, it's impossible for us to be subtle & expect them to read the hints! Just tell them direct la baru faham.. Haha :D

dott + swack said...

Yes, women! Take charge of your lives!!! LOL!

Adillah A Nordin said...

Da, I know u r one of those few ladies who always tell ur other half when u get hurt! Should have listened to u ages ago :)